I think I've got it!!! After putting together the many youtube videos, I think I've got it working wirelessly. It has to do with the fact that the ip changed 4 times and I think I nailed down this one.
Thanks for your help. I really do appreciate your patience. Let's hope this holds.
Your wireless and wired connections will not have the same IP address because they are different network controllers with different MAC addresses. So, your router will give each a separate network address. However, next time, if you have already booted your pi and are able to connect with the wired connection at the same time, you can go into raspi-config (sudo raspi-config). From there you can access the available wireless networks, select yours and enter your passphrase.
That's exactly what I did!! And I can't tell you how happy that this is fixed. I've been working on it for 3 days. I haven't gotten my printer yet because I wanted to make sure this worked while it is in transit. So hopefully, I'll be able to connect to the printer right away instead of spending 3 days figuring this out while the printer sat there.
Now I just have to figure out what plugins to install. There are soooo many and I'm glad that I have the time to look and watch youtube videos on suggestions.
THANK YOU SOOO MUCH for everyone's help. I can't tell you how much better it made my horror story go. lol
Thanks again,
If you're not, mea culpa. If you are, well played.
Great it works now!
Could you please:
Actually you should mark your last post (nr 43)
Just an old man trying to follow the directions I see on Youtube and get frustrated when a, b, c, doesn't work the way it's supposed to. 
Again, thanks to everyone here, I got it working and hope that I can now look at plugins and research which ones will benefit me and work on the printer being delivered next month. Also, Towlerg, I can't imagine what benefit it would be to anyone to "troll" this group. But hey, you may know something I don't.
Just for the record because I see this a lot: The "directions on YouTube" aren't the official directions. There are a WHOLE TON of YouTube tutorials created by a WHOLE LOT of YouTubers over the years. Most of which are outdated now, a lot of which will become outdated at some point. That's just the nature of things. The only thing that's maintained by the project and which should be the authority on how to do things is the official install instructions on the download page.
And saying those are outdated or don't work without clarification won't make them magically improve if you don't specify issues you are having, especially not when they work just fine for thousands of people each day. So in the future, please, always keep in mind: the only official stuff is what is found on octoprint.org, everything else is thirdparty, and if there's some issue with the official stuff then clarify precisely what the problem is you are seeing so it can be fixed or you can be helped.
I get that, thanks, BUT...NOT one suggestion mentioned PUTTY. Once I got Putty installed, I was able to do what was needed and I finally got it to work. At least of the moment. I'm looking at plugins and hope that it isn't difficult to add.
I really do appreciate everyone's help.